Daily Prompt: Chill Out

You need to make a major change in your life. Do you make it all at once, cold turkey style, or incrementally?

Well, it depends on what the change is. Some changes can be made all at once, but some take time, too. When I quit smoking a few months back, I went cold turkey. No “weaning” myself off of cigarettes, no patch or gum to help me along the way. I just did it. This isn’t as easy for everyone, and I am very lucky to say I kicked the habit on my own. Other changes, like losing weight, obviously take time. I’m hoping to tone up while I’m busy marathon training, and there’s still three more months of that ahead of me.

If I could make one major change in my life at this moment, it would be the amount of crap I let bother me on a daily basis. I’ve always been sensitive, I’ve always been fairly short-tempered, and in those moments I forget to bite my tongue on the smallest of things, it immediately bothers me after. In the business I work in, this is something that needs to be nipped in the bud ASAP. I deal with jerks on an every day basis, and that isn’t going to change. But I choose to be a bartender (at times it is very rewarding – I meet lots of interesting folks), so I have to deal with it. We can’t sweat the small stuff, right? So what if someone is angry with me because they missed their flight. I know it isn’t my fault, and it’s likely I’ll never have to see them again. So, ah well. It sounds easy, but when you’re so jaded it’s really hard not to complain sometimes. 

I’ve love to say I could make this change cold turkey style – head up, shoulders back, a smile on my face at all times – but that isn’t realistic, for me at least. So, I’ll make this change incrementally. I’m really going to try…wish me luck. Life is too short to spend any time miserable, especially over another’s stupidity. And when I find myself complaining about work outside of work, well then we  have a real problem.


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35 responses to “Daily Prompt: Chill Out

  1. You’re right. You only get one life and spending it being miserable just makes no sense. Make the change, Nicole! You can do it!

  2. I deal with those kinds of people at the resort as well. I give myself the 10-second breathing rule and it generally helps me not say something inappropriate on the job. Rise above, as my dad used to say!

  3. I think you’ll be able to make the change you want to, Nicole Marie, if you really want to. And I think you do. You can do this!

  4. I try and just go with a smile and the thousand yard stare when idiots attack.
    Or go with it, just make sure your biting insults are hilarious.
    The jerk’s friends will probably leave great tips!

    • You know, I’ve had some people tip me even better after seeing me deal with jerks! For instance, the old man in the cowboy hat that called me “beautiful” then asked me to clean his pint glass so he could steal it. I laughed and walked away, and when I came back the exact change for his beer was on the bar, and him and the pint glass were GONE. The other two guys saw this, said what an ass he was, then pulled their money together for one big fat tip sent my way. Woohoo! I always insult with a smile on my face, at least. Sometimes the idiots don’t realize you’re insulting them!

  5. Best of luck. You’ve already passed the first hurdle – deciding that there is something you want to change – so you are off to a good start!

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  8. calahan

    The fact that you can bite your tongue, at all, is a step in the right direction. I’m not so good at that, so I can only admire such a trait in you. And your tattoos.

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  10. Make that change, cutie!

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